This post came at a perfect time. I have been ruminating about feeling that I "don't fit in" to the bigger system of my industry—that the successful people are doing things one way that just isn't my style, and that must be what the people want, so my options are to 1) settle for working in a way that's inauthentic to me; or 2) depart entirely and risk further isolation. The mud in my waters hasn't settled entirely yet, but now I'm feeling more calm about just sitting still until they do. I've had very clear actions appear before me in the past when I gave myself enough pause, so I trust it will happen. 🙏🏼
I appreciate your "tip" and the timing of this post, Colin.
Just yesterday, my kids came back to me after spending nine whole days with her dad while I traveled. I noticed, one by one, those familiar things I find scary and harmful they stick to the kids on their way back to me.
My 8-year-old teasing me in a mean way, telling me about his videogames and about spending a with a classmate whose influence I choose to minimize, all of his homework undone, the intense volume and speed of his nervous system. My 4 year-old unable to show down and hold eye contact; with enough -- gasp -- dyed goldfish crackers in her snack pack for about 5 people 🙄; the congestion in her system so obvious to me.
And somehow, this time, I waited for the mud to settle. I breathed, hugged them tight and long, sent their dad a heartfelt blessing, and went on to parent through my compass 🧭. We ate good food, finished all the homework, re-regulated together, and today I'm not afraid of the other influences.
I'm just doing my thing 🌀.
Warm Fall greetings, and heartfelt blessings upon your Dad (and family)'s transition, Colin. 🌬️🍂🙏
This one really resonates with me because I'm working through a career change and not sure about my direction - how do I try to find my place in an economy that's largely driven by values I disagree with? How do I handle my own contradictions living in a global society that doesn't work for so many people and that is at risk of destroying itself?
Are you familiar with Byron Katie’s Work. Use her steps on the stories you tell about the economy and about your contradictions. Because whether your stories are true and rational or not, I suspect you can find more empowering stories that fit the facts. As an example, “I am called to help people live more in line with human values.” Or “I am called to make some part of the economy work better for more people.” Standing in stories like that might make it easier to find an appropriate career. I say all this without knowing the specifics so apologies if what I say is not helpful.
This post came at a perfect time. I have been ruminating about feeling that I "don't fit in" to the bigger system of my industry—that the successful people are doing things one way that just isn't my style, and that must be what the people want, so my options are to 1) settle for working in a way that's inauthentic to me; or 2) depart entirely and risk further isolation. The mud in my waters hasn't settled entirely yet, but now I'm feeling more calm about just sitting still until they do. I've had very clear actions appear before me in the past when I gave myself enough pause, so I trust it will happen. 🙏🏼
Some people also find it helpful to ask whatever power they believe in for guidance or signs. Good luck with it, Jennifer!! :)
I appreciate your "tip" and the timing of this post, Colin.
Just yesterday, my kids came back to me after spending nine whole days with her dad while I traveled. I noticed, one by one, those familiar things I find scary and harmful they stick to the kids on their way back to me.
My 8-year-old teasing me in a mean way, telling me about his videogames and about spending a with a classmate whose influence I choose to minimize, all of his homework undone, the intense volume and speed of his nervous system. My 4 year-old unable to show down and hold eye contact; with enough -- gasp -- dyed goldfish crackers in her snack pack for about 5 people 🙄; the congestion in her system so obvious to me.
And somehow, this time, I waited for the mud to settle. I breathed, hugged them tight and long, sent their dad a heartfelt blessing, and went on to parent through my compass 🧭. We ate good food, finished all the homework, re-regulated together, and today I'm not afraid of the other influences.
I'm just doing my thing 🌀.
Warm Fall greetings, and heartfelt blessings upon your Dad (and family)'s transition, Colin. 🌬️🍂🙏
What a beautiful story about letting the mud settle and following your compass, Lorena. Thank you for sharing and for blessings. Xo
This one really resonates with me because I'm working through a career change and not sure about my direction - how do I try to find my place in an economy that's largely driven by values I disagree with? How do I handle my own contradictions living in a global society that doesn't work for so many people and that is at risk of destroying itself?
Are you familiar with Byron Katie’s Work. Use her steps on the stories you tell about the economy and about your contradictions. Because whether your stories are true and rational or not, I suspect you can find more empowering stories that fit the facts. As an example, “I am called to help people live more in line with human values.” Or “I am called to make some part of the economy work better for more people.” Standing in stories like that might make it easier to find an appropriate career. I say all this without knowing the specifics so apologies if what I say is not helpful.
I can suggest one step forward if you’d like me to, Kimberly.
Yes please! (FWIW, I'm in the Careershifters program, if you've heard of them, so I do have some amount of coaching/community).